If you’re feeling bereft, or you know someone who is, you‘ve found the right place.
Whether you are heartbroken because of a significant loss or because of many different painful experiences over the years, one thing is for sure; regardless of the cause, you know how you feel and it’s probably not good.
I’ve been there too and can help you find happiness again.
Many people with broken hearts try to pretend that they are “over it.” They will put on a brave face, take a deep breath, smile, and tell everyone, “I’m fine.”
If we think of fine as…
F – Feelings
I – Internalised
N – Never
E – Expressed
…then the broken hearted are most likely, correct.
Here are some of the tell-tale signs that they are grieving:
- Being preoccupied with sad or painful memories
- Refusing to talk about the loss at all
- Increasing alcohol, food, drug, or cigarette usage
- Antisocial behaviour
- Overindulging in hobbies, work, or exercise
- Lacking energy, disrupted sleep patterns
- Difficulty concentrating
- Isolating from friends and family
When we think of grief we automatically associate that feeling to a bereavement or perhaps to someone whose marriage has ended, these are major losses. However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling heart broken, lost and hopeless.
Grief is defined as the “conflicting emotions that follow the ending or change in familiar patterns of behaviour.”
This complex emotional state has nothing to do with our intellect. We cannot think ourselves better. Therefore any “treatment” that appeals to our heads and not our hearts is doomed to fail.
Recovery, therefore, is not about understanding grief on a rational level, it’s about learning the language of the heart. When we do that, we can start feeling better.
If we don’t address our emotional pain, the long term effects of unresolved grief can be devastating to current relationships, future relationships, and every day activities like work and the hobbies you love.
Learn the actions that allow you to heal your broken heart, so you can let go of the pain and be happy again!
Over 40+ life losses can leave us feeling bereft.
When we think of bereavement, we usually think of the death of a loved one. Most people looking for bereavement counselling or a grief coach only feel entitled to do so if someone close to them has died.
However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling devastated, heartbroken, lost, hopeless and ultimately cause the same emotional and physical symptoms of grief.
The Grief Recovery Method is unique in that it is applicable to any and all kinds of loss.
Not only can the action steps within the Grief Recovery Method be applied to any type of loss, they can be used again and again with any future losses that occur – once you have participated in a Programme, you will have all the tools you need to cope with loss later in life..
Death of a loved one
Divorce, separation, breakup
Estrangement of family members
Miscarriage, Infertility, pregnancy
Abusive or absent parent
Loss of safety due to trauma
Death of a pet
Retirement, empty nest
Loss of health
Loss of finances
Loss of faith
Relocation, change of job
Loss of career
Loss of identity
Change in living conditions
Meet the founder of the Grief Recovery Method
A brief introduction to the Grief Recovery Method by John James, creator of The Grief Recovery Method and author of the Grief Recovery Handbook..